Friday, 24 September 2021 10:17

Alone. Together. Loved. Forever. by Ingrid Lomas - A Memoir.

By Lehlohonolo Lehana.

Alone. Together. Loved. Forever is a hugely relatable and humorous memoir despite being peppered with sadness and rejection.

A true journey of love, understanding and acceptance that’ll never leave your heart. It begins in Ingrid’s mother’s womb prior to her birth and goes on to tell how her mother Shirley found the ordeal of Ingrid’s birth to be so overwhelming that she stays on at the nursing home to recover while entrusting her new-born baby daughter into the care of Shirley’s mother and Ingrid’s grandmother Nana May. Ingrid finds herself in a loving home filled with family, friends and laughter as visitors constantly pop in to avail themselves of the plentiful supply of welcoming teas and meals always on offer.

She therefore feels bereft when, still a baby, she is uprooted and moved away from her beloved Nana May’s home to go and live permanently with her parents, Bill and Shirley - in a very different environment. It results in Ingrid experiencing an acute sense of abandonment that stays with her for many years and attracts many more experiences of abandonment into her life.

Shirley and Ingrid have a difficult mother/daughter relationship from the get-go, and this sets Ingrid up to learn her many life lessons the hard way.

The reader also meets the many other interesting and complex 'teachers' Ingrid brings into her journey during her unconscious quest to learn more. Up until she has her 'wake-up' call and discovers the real meaning of life.

Her book isn’t a self-help instruction type of book either – highlighting what is wrong with you and the world and how to make it right by going on a spiritual path. It is the story of Ingrid’s life written in novel form and in her own voice to appeal to every person who wants to know more about spiritual matters.

Those who don’t necessarily want to be lectured on the subject but who want to know how spiritual knowledge could possibly help alleviate the downside of the everyday experience for them. With the added benefit of being offered a rationale for why things happen the way they do and how they can give and receive more of what is guaranteed to change everyone’s life for the better. Something, more of which, is wanted by all of us. Love. The vital ingredient that we are all born with but generally lose the ability to experience to the full over time. Something however that we can all regain should we wish to.

Readers can therefore discover through the everyday experiences of her life, that are not necessarily that much different to their own life experiences, a way of escaping the stress of complying with the harrowing demands they make on all of us. And can then decide for themselves if they wish to replace them with everlasting love, peace, and contentment. Or not.

Open up to the experience and purchase your copy of Alone. Together. Loved. Forever. at one of your favourite online retailers here: (Paperback to become available in South African Books Stores soon.)